Where Are the Butterflies?

{ December 16, 2009 @ 1:59 pm } · { New Man, Radomness }
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I used to be one of those people who got butterflies when I spoke with, saw, just got near a crush.  It happened all the time.  But as I’ve gotten older – and more cynical – it takes longer for those butterflies to come along.

Why is that?

For instance, take this new guy I met.  On paper – he seems great.  Cute, successful, very mellow, likes to cook, can talk sports, works in Boston (though lives farther out), divorced, and a very loving dad (this dad thing is new for me, but very intriguing too.)  We have good convos and he selected what looks like to be a fun place for dinner.

So why no butterflies?

Is it because I am overly cynical? Is it because someone, somewhere is telling me that he isn’t the one, so why even bother?  Or maybe he is the one and one day I will get those damn butterflies?

Very confusing.  But nonetheless I am looking forward to meeting him tomorrow, having a lovely dinner, and great conversations.

And as always, I will keep you posted.

XOXO

I’m Going to Be Better

{ December 15, 2009 @ 10:52 am } · { Radomness }
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I know, I know, I have been derelict in my blogging duties, but come Friday, I am on vacation – YAY!!! I’ll start posting again regularly and getting back into my “reading routine.”  If I don’t start Friday, I’ll actually start sooner!

I am so blessed to have my little blogging world and friends like you in it.  Thanks for understanding.

XOXO

How Priorities Have Changed

{ December 14, 2009 @ 9:51 pm } · { New Man, Non-Dating Related, Reflection }
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Well, it has been some time since I posted something. And the main reason was I had nothing to post.  I was so caught up with the holidays – traveling, figuring things out, planning ahead at work, buying gifts, writing cards, decorating the house, ordering more gifts. All in all, it is exhausting.

But with everything going on, I still had a lot of time to think.  My priorities have changed.  For some reason, you get to the holidays and if you’re single, all you can think about it is not being single and how great it would be to have someone in your life. If you broke up with someone, all you think about it is what that other person may be doing. And if you are lucky enough to be with someone, you’re consumed with finding the right gift. It is a never ending circle.

So I thought about it – my priorities have changed. I am now only concerned with making me happy. Whether that is with a man, perfecting my job, a new home, whatever. If a man comes along, so be it.

Oh – and I may have a date this week. But like I said, its all about making me happy!
XO

Respond or Not to Respond?

{ December 3, 2009 @ 2:39 pm } · { Poll of The Day }
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That is the question.

OK, so I unhid myself on Match.  I was off for several weeks and decided – hey, why not go back on and see what may happen in the new year? I am however off eHarmony still and do not plan on returning. So here is the question.  I received the following (READ: ARROGANT) email last night:

Hello,

I saw/looked over your profile and found myself intrigued, a bit.

What are your thoughts on doing coffee?

Happy December

Let’s just say, I was NONE too impressed and would like to send the following response back:

“If you want to try and get to know someone, you may not want to tell her that her profile only interested you “a bit.” Even if it was only a bit, you emailed her and showed some interest. That statement comes off as being arrogant and disinterested. Needless to say, I am sorry, but do not wish to meet for coffee. Good luck in your search.”

I have one vote for sending; one vote for not.  What are your thoughts?

Is Tomorrow Really December?

{ November 30, 2009 @ 4:52 pm } · { Radomness }
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I know, I know – it has a negative connotation, but its true. Its been a hectic year and an even more hectic holiday season.  So I’m saying, let’s ring in 2010 so I can make the following resolutions:

  • Continue my better eating habits
  • Continue my workout regime (I’ve gotten better over the past few weeks – I kept that initial early resolution)
  • Have a better/more open attitude
  • Chill! (I seem to make this resolution every year.)

But it has made me think. For some reason, with the oncoming of a new year, I turn to more  hopeful thoughts.  This will be the year when I become a better me, a more understanding me, a more open me.

It has been a rough few weeks, I won’t deny it.  And unfortunately, the holidays tend to add more stress, but as we conclude November and as one of our local morning anchormen says, “we are about to enter the last month of this decade,” I am a bit more hopeful. A bit more pensive, yes, but hopeful nonetheless.

Maybe I will find my Prince Charming in 2010….and yes, I realize this a random post, but this is what is on my mind.
XO

Thanksgiving Questions

{ November 23, 2009 @ 9:10 am } · { Non-Dating Related }
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I’ve always loved this time of year. The holidays, the food, the drinks, friends and family, and non stop football.  But Thanksgiving holds a special place in my heart.  Its the one time of the year when I get to see my entire immediate family.  There always seems to be some drama – which has become par for the course and I just have to roll with the punches.

But since I am usually the only single member of my family in this generation, I usually hear the following questions:

  1. Are you still dating <insert name>?
  2. What happened? Why are you no longer dating <insert name>?
  3. I thought you were dating <insert another name>?
  4. How many men did you date this year?
  5. What? You’re taking a break? Are you “batting for the other team?”

It cracks me up.  But what can you do?  Its just another part of the holidays. And one day, maybe I won’t have to answer these questions anymore.  XOXO

Following My Horoscope

{ November 22, 2009 @ 3:26 pm } · { Non-Dating Related, Reflection }
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What a week it has been. Quite insane really. Which is why I am sticking with my decision to take a break from dating for a bit. Too much going on.  It wouldn’t be fair to date someone during this time. Too much on my mind including:

  1. My friend’s surgery on his brain tumor is scheduled for Tuesday.  I heard from his wife last week, and she is so worried, stressed, tired.  A lot comes down on to her and folks sometimes forget how tough this is on her as well.  I can only be there for her.
  2. Had breakfast with my other friend last week – her mom is dealing with a lot.  And its tough on the whole family. Its hard hearing this – I’ve been friends with this family for well over a decade and used to spend all of my Sundays with them watching football. I feel awful.
  3. My friend was forced to give birth – and subsequently watch her son pass away. I can’t talk about it – it upsets me even thinking about it.
  4. And last but certainly, not least, our Thanksgiving plans changed.  I hate the reason why and feel awful because again, someone I know is hurting.  And I can’t change it or help her. We are now moving Turkey Day to my other cousin’s house. Its going to be a lot of traveling, but hey – I get to spend more time with my dad. And with everything else going on, spending as much time with him is a good thing and makes me smile. I just hope everything goes well in Cali (those who know what I’m talking about, will understand this last statement.)

So what did my horoscope say today? Lay low, don’t do too much, except for routine activities.  Which is fine by me. I’ve spent the day finishing/folding laundry, paying bills, chatting with Pops, and now baking low fat carrot cake muffins while a couple of football games are playing in the background. Yum.

Well I Did IT!

{ November 19, 2009 @ 4:29 am } · { Radomness }
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No not THAT!

And no, I have yet to unfriend some of the most recent ex’s. I will though. I’m giving them until next Wed (day before Thanksgiving.) If I don’t hear from them, DEFRIEND!

No, I took myself off of eHarmony and hid my profile on Match.  I may change my mind in a week or two. But right now, I need to focus on me.  Which means that some of these posts may not be as entertaining as they once were. I HOPE that doesn’t become the case. I plan to still be as cooky as I have been in the past couple of months.

I still plan to do a lot of reflection and thinking about dating. I still plan to have polls of the day, Song Saturday, and rants and raves on men.

I just hope that I can maybe find that one person organically. No internet. No dating sites.  Just the old fashioned way.And have fun along the way.  Hmmm…we’ll see if this experiment works.

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{ November 18, 2009 @ 9:22 pm } · { Non-Dating Related }
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Taking a Break from Dating

{ November 15, 2009 @ 9:15 pm } · { Radomness, Reflection }
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I think that’s what I need to do.  I’m kinda over the whole thing.  What’s the point? For me to find someone to break my heart…again.

Maybe its me, but I think most men are boring (me.)  Sorry to say it. And I don’t want to, but its true.  The latest guy – we IM’d all day last Wed ( fun conversation – no lulls.) And today, he’s online again and its such a dull conversation. Its like pulling teeth. If its this up and down on IM – can you even imagine what a date would be like? Seriously.  Is it even worth it?

I’d rather spend the weekend like I did – good times with good friends. Yesterday, I caught up with an old college friend (great time – was like it had only been 10 days since we saw each other, not 10 years) and then went to a baby shower for another old friend this afternoon.  She and I worked together and it had been well over a year since we saw one another. Again, was like no time was lost.  We spoke like we saw each other daily. Don’t misunderstand me – we have kept in touch over IM and Facebook all this time, but it was nice to talk with her face-to-face (if she ever reads this – good luck A! I am so happy for you and T!)

Why can’t speaking with a guy be as easy as speaking with my friends?  It shouldn’t be that hard. I wish I knew why sometimes it was.

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