So I get it. I’m in my early 30s and the men I’m looking for happen to be in their mid-late 30s. I get it. Some have been single their entire life and some are divorced. No biggie. I have several friends who have gone for divorce and have come out the better end of it. They learned from this experience and are growing from it.
Because I know so many people who have gone through this, I never really think much about it. It is part of life.
So what do you when you deal with someone who is separated, but not divorced? When they’re in that limbo stage?
This time around on Match (I think I’m on round 436, but whose counting) has been interesting. I first stated on this site back in my mid-20s and had fun with it. Now in my early 30s, I get a whole new pack of men winking and emailing me. Men who are closer to Pops’ age then mine (can I get ewwwww yucky on that) and then men closer to my age. At least in their later 30s or very early 40s. OK, I can dig it. I’ve had some interesting convos with a new boy this week, and that is for a later post. But lately I’ve had an influx of men interested in me who have labeled themselves on Match as “Currently Separated.” But not divorced? I don’t get it. Why have all of these men popped up all of the sudden?
Is it the age I’m at? The times we’re living in? And for me, how can I wrap my head around dating someone who is still technically married, yet not happy, and therefore looking to get out and find a new relationship? Can they even move on? And can I get over being that “other woman” even though it wouldn’t be a secret?
I don’t know…it just seems a bit weird to me. Like the man who walks into a bar and takes off his wedding band because he is unhappy and wants something new and different and shiney – and is probably separated or on his way towards that. But this time, its ok because it is online and public?? (OK, so I’m being dramatic.)
I’m just trying to understand. I don’t think it’s wrong, I’m just trying to figure it all out.
Divorced folks/near-divorced folks - can you explain?